By: Bari Sobelson, MS, LMFT & David Lee Sexton, Jr.Our March 22, 2018 webinar was facilitated by Dr. Lauren Marlotte of the Division of Behavioral Health and Nathanson Family Resilience Center at the University of California Los Angeles. In this webinar, 3 broad areas of violence that impact youth were discussed- bullying, relationship violence in teens, and school shootings. Dr. Marlotte shared highlights of all three of these types of violence but tied them all together by talking about overall risk and resilience factors, taking a family systems approach, and ways to build resilience in families including some resources. Below are some insights, questions and answers, and resources gained from this engaging and helpful webinar.InsightsHere are some insights that the participants and our team took away from the webinar.Adult logic may not be the best fit when looking for solutions to address and combat bullying. Lauren led us through a series of scenarios, asking for our thoughts on the ways in which we would help our children navigate a bullying situation. Many of us were surprised to find that the adult logic we were applying to these scenarios were not, in fact, the best ways to handle them.1/3 teens experience violence with a dating partner. In addition to sharing this alarmingly high statistic, Lauren shared that girls and women between 16 and 24 years old are experiencing the highest rates of Intimate Partner Violence.There are negative consequences for both the bully and person being bullied. Children who are bullied are at higher risk of experiencing negative physical health, mental health, and school consequences such as anxiety, depression, PTSD, low self-esteem, physical health problems, and more. Children who are bullies are at higher risk for engaging in violence and other risky behaviors later in life such as misusing substances engaging in delinquent behaviors, carrying a weapon, and being convicted of a crime or receiving a citation as an adult.School shootings affect more than just the people at the school. It’s not just the school personnel, children, and families of the school who are affected. Anyone who hears about the shooting on the news is also affected.Questions and AnswersThe participants were highly engaged, asking important and relevant questions throughout the webinar. Below are some of the questions by the participants and the answers supplied by Dr. Marlotte.Participant: Why would bullies engage in sexual activity earlier?Dr. Marlotte: “My best explanation would be that kids who engage in bullying are at higher risk of negative consequences [such as] being negatively influenced by their peer groups [or] having less parental supervision or involvement… teens are still developing the frontal lobe, the centers of their brain important in decision making and thinking things out… they may be more likely to be impulsive and make reckless decisions. This is a guess as to why these things might be correlated.”Participant: If children tend to “freeze” and have trouble with a comeback, what would be good advice?Dr. Marlotte: “When a child is under stress, they may experience fight, flight or freeze… That’s why having some sort of preparation to coach children through using these skills can help them with those fight, flight, and freeze responses. Sometimes just acknowledging that that’s the way our brains and our bodies respond to stress can help children understand why they might experience stress in a certain way. Maybe they silently take a breath and then use one of the teasing comments and walk away from the bully. Practice and rehearsal of the bullying strategies, paired with the practice and rehearsal of some of the emotional regulation strategies, can be paired together to be able to use those strategies to the best of the child’s ability.”Participant: This might be difficult for children with developmental disabilities who have trouble with social skills even in the best situations. How would we advise them to handle the situation? Would a bullying social story be a good option?Dr. Marlotte: “I attended a training by [a professional] who developed a curriculum on social skills for children with Autism and she writes in her manual [that] the nonverbal teasing comebacks, are sometimes the most difficult for kids with developmental disabilities. In particular, she works a lot with kids with Autism… They may not have the same spatial awareness about what an eye roll feels like or looks like, or their face may end up making a face they are not intending to when they are trying to look standoffish. So, absolutely! Doing a role play, a rehearsal… I’d say starting with a social story and seeing if the child is able to apply this to their real life as well to make sure they can make that leap. I also think that this is a wonderful thing to do as a prevention strategy. There are lots of ways to have conversations about bullying even if it’s not an issue that comes up.”Participant: What is a good bullying curriculum that can be utilized in schools? Are there any to train teachers to help with bullying prevention in their classrooms?Dr. Marlotte: “I would recommend the stopbullying.gov website (specifically https://www.stopbullying.gov/prevention/at-school/index.html) to find out more information about prevention and evidence-based anti-bullying programs. I would also recommend that schools adopt a social emotional learning approach or curriculum, such as RULER (http://ei.yale.edu/ruler/) or the Families OverComing Under Stress (FOCUS) Resilience Curriculum (https://nfrc.ucla.edu/FOCUS).” Participant: How often is it is a “lone” bully and how often do they have back-ups in their bullying?Dr. Marlotte: “Since the bully tends to want to get attention and social notoriety, I think there’s typically people around… There might be one kid who’s the instigator or the primary bully, and they may be able to suck other people into what they’re doing rather than having a group of kids decide to be bullies all together. There’s typically a leader with others who are either bystanders or occasionally jumping in.”Participant: Sometimes using the term abusive to a teen doesn’t resonate with them as they do not consider what is going on in their or their friend’s relationship abusive. Possibly breaking it down with some defining- controlling, jealousy, isolating from friends, etc.Dr. Marlotte: “Yes, using specific examples… Sometimes, it lands a little bit better to say healthy vs, unhealthy [or] acceptable vs unacceptable. If there’s other types of words or language that you’re hearing from your teen, using their language can be very helpful. We have a trauma clinic here and we see a wide variety of families… I’ve had families experience some very traumatic situations and they’re saying, ‘Well, I don’t have it as bad as this situation that was in the media’ or ‘I didn’t experience this type of situation’. So they may not actually consider themselves trauma survivors. So then if THEY choose to not identify themselves in that way, I don’t push that. I talk about the stress impact of their experiences that they have had and allow them to use their own language around that while acknowledging that what they’ve experienced is going to have a large impact on them. But if there are certain words that don’t resonate, that is absolutely fine.”Participant: How do we counter the culture of meanness/name calling/bullying that has developed, been promoted, and modeled in our country in the last couple of years? There is a trickle-down effect from what is modeled from adults and what children (and adults) see on the news on a daily basis.Dr. Marlotte: “It’s important to have conversations with clients/children about meanness and name calling that is present in the media. Positive, supportive adults model appropriate behaviors and discuss and address inappropriate behaviors highlighted in the news and popular culture. Don’t read or watch news sources that engage in name calling or are clearly biased. When mean behavior is observed, engage adolescents in a discussion around the behavior and explore other ways of expressing one’s self while being respectful. This helps reminds adults, too, that being mean or bullying behaviors are unacceptable. Point out examples of positive behaviors that are portrayed as well. Just like we ask parents to ‘catch your child being good’ and provide praise, we should also be in tune with when the media is respectful and uses effective communication.” ResourcesThroughout the webinar, Dr. Marlotte and the Family Development Team shared a plethora of resources. There were also a couple of resources mentioned by participants. In addition to the resources listed below, you can find a comprehensive list of additional resources compiled by the Family Development Team on the event page.NFRC HandoutsNational Child Traumatic Stress NetworkResource Discovery for NCTSN School Personnel ResourcesLove is RespectWonder ClassroomIf you are interested in watching this webinar, the archived version and all of the supplemental materials can be found on the event page. If you are interested in obtaining CEUs for the webinar, they will be available until March 22, 2019. Details of how to obtain the CEUs are on the learn event page mentioned above.This post was written by members of the MFLN Family Development Team. The Family Development team aims to support the development of professionals working with military families. Find out more about the Military Families Learning Network Family Development concentration on our website, Facebook, and Twitter. You can also listen to our Anchored. podcast series via iTunes and our website.
Stung by a series of scam charges and Income Tax raids against his family members, Rashtriya Janata Dal chief Lalu Prasad on Friday declared that he would uproot the Narendra Modi government at the Centre “before it completes its five-year term.” He also accused the BJP of conspiring to tarnish his image through I-T raids and making “frivolous allegations” against his sons and daughter.“Listen, BJP/RSS people, Lalu will drag you off your seat in Delhi, whatever be my situation… Get this straight… don’t you dare threaten me,” tweeted Lalu Prasad. ‘Where’s the proof?’ On the recent Income Tax raids against his family members and others in connection with several “dubious” land deals, Mr. Prasad’s second tweet asked: “Chapa…Chapa…Chapa…Chapa…kiska Chapa? Kisko Chapa? Chapa to hum marenge 2019 mein…Main dusron ka hausla digata hun, mera kaun digayega (Raid…Raid… Raid… whose raid? Who is being raided? … I’ll do a raid in 2019…I make others nervous, who will make me nervous?). Mr. Prasad asked the media to name the 22 places where Income Tax officials had conducted raids. “How did they [the media] report without any verification or evidence,” he asked. Speaking to a select group of journalists in Patna, the RJD chief said the Modi government had completed three years. “But it’s not going to complete its full five-year term… The BJP has been conspiring to tarnish Lalu’s reputation… How can my family and I become super rich and others remain paupers .. It’s all part of a political conspiracy.” Mr. Prasad said he, his wife and two sons had been filing I-T returns and had also submitted affidavits on their assets to the Election Commission. “It’s all in the public domain.” Mr. Prasad said Mr. Modi was trying to divide the country. “But we won’t let him divide the country … I’m standing rock solid in their path.” Pan-India campaignThe RJD chief said he had called a “BJP bhagao, Desh bachao” rally in Patna on August 27. “I have invited top leaders of all non-BJP parties to my grand rally…leaders like Congress president Sonia Gandhi, H.D. Deve Gowda, Arvind Kejriwal, Mayawati, Akhilesh Yadav, Mamata Banerjee and Karunanidhi will attend the rally from where we will launch a pan-India campaign to uproot them [BJP] from the Centre,” Mr. Prasad said.He also raised the issues of beef ban and the volatile situation in Jammu and Kashmir. “Modi talks about beef ban, but in the last three years India has been the largest exporter of beef… In Kashmir, bodies of soldiers are being mutilated every day…Are these the real achievements of the Modi government?”
A police constable was on Saturday killed and several others injured in Ghazipur district of Uttar Pradesh in stone-pelting after clashes broke out during a protest by members of the Nishad Party. Eleven persons were arrrested and several have been detained for questioning. There are over 90 persons named in the FIR, including 30 named as accused.Constable Suresh Vats was returning from his duty at the rally of Prime Minister Narendra Modi when the incident took place under the Nonhara area of the Purvanchal district. Yesh Veer Singh, SP Ghazipur, said the constable was killed when the protestors started pelting stones as the police were “trying to clear the roadblock” created by them. The protestors had blocked roads at four places near the venue, he said. The constable succumbed to his injuries.Chief Minister Yogi Adityanath took cognizance of the matter and announced an ex-gratia compensation of Rs 40 lakh to the family of the constable. He also directed the district magistrate and SSP to “take strict action against the unruly elements and immediate arrest and legal action against them,” a government statement said. Sanjay Nishad, president of the Nishad Party, demanded a detailed police investigation into the incident. “The BJP is trying to defame us with wrong allegations,” he said.Praveen Nishad, MP of Gorakhpur, and leader of the Nishad Party while talking to The Hindu said Nishad Party had no role in the violence. He claimed activists of the party were staging a peaceful dharna when members of the BJP who were returning from the rally in vehicles started chasing and attacking the Nishad activists.”Due to the attack, local villagers came to the support of our workers and this led to an altercation. The incident regarding the constable (stone-pelting) took place through the BJP workers,” said Mr. Nishad.The Nishads were demanding issuing of SC certificates for their caste under the name Majwar and implementation of a 2016 notifcation brought under the Akhilesh Yadav government, said Mr. Nishad. “The present government is not giving us the certificates even though it is still valid,” said the MP. Nishads are among the 17 most-backward castes in UP who have been over the years struggling for SC status.
DETROIT — The Detroit Red Wings’ come-from-behind effort lifted coach Mike Babcock to a new career milestone.Darren Helm and the Red Wings rallied the night of Dec. 6 to top the New York Rangers 3-2 and secure Babcock’s 500th victory.Helm’s wrist shot past Cam Talbot broke a 2-2 tie midway through the third period and capped a three-goal comeback that lifted the Red Wings to their second straight win. Jimmy Howard had 27 saves.Talbot made 31 saves for the Rangers, who lost after a four-day layoff.Detroit was shorthanded for more than five minutes late in the third after three consecutive penalties, including Kyle Quincey’s 4-minute high-sticking offense, but allowed just three shots to keep the lead.“That was huge. It showed a lot of character by our guys. A lot of heart,” Howard said after his 13th win. “We found a way. That’s all that matters.”Rangers coach Alain Vigneault saw it differently. “Our power play guys had the opportunity to at least tie it up and didn’t get it done,” he said.Kevin Klein opened the scoring and Rick Nash added his 17 goal to send New York to the first intermission with a 2-0 lead but Detroit’s Riley Sheahan and Luke Glendening scored a minute apart in the second to tie the score.“We were in control of the game, I thought,” Rangers defenseman Dan Boyle said. “Then they get two goals in I don’t know how many seconds.”Rangers forward Carl Hagelin received a double-minor penalty early in the first for high-sticking Brendan Smith but the Red Wings managed just a single shot during the power play.The victory followed a familiar script for Detroit, which kept within reach of Atlantic Division leaders Tampa Bay and Montreal despite several games that featured poor starts.“We’ve been doing a lot of that but we’ve got to get better in the first period,” said Glendening, a fourth-liner who scored for just the third time this season. “It’s going to catch up to us eventually, having to put so much energy in the second and third periods.”Babcock’s milestone for wins tied Hall of Famer Toe Blake for 18th on the all-time list.“When you start in the league you’re hoping to coach 82 games. Just hoping to get through and not get fired. I’ve coached a lot of good players,” Babcock said. “It’s been enjoyable.“I love it as much and maybe more than the day I started and maybe they’ll let me keep doing it.”Babcock, the longest tenured coach in the NHL, led Detroit to the 2008 Stanley Cup and has guided Canada to a pair of Olympic gold medals. TweetPinShare0 Shares
Participant Media, Paramount Home Media Distribution and Google announced today that former Vice President Al Gore, chairman of The Climate Reality Project, and Participant Media Chairman and Founder Jeff Skoll will host a Google+ Conversation on the climate crisis to celebrate the seventh anniversary of the Academy Award-winning documentary An Inconvenient Truth.In a brief YouTube video released today, Vice President Gore invited people to join the Science on G+ Community and share ideas to mitigate climate change. Over the next week Gore and Skoll will engage with Google+ users on the topic and ultimately will select the five most insightful Community members to join them in a live Google+ Hangout on Air on June 11th at 2PM EDT / 11AM PDT.To celebrate the film’s seventh anniversary, An Inconvenient Truth is also now available for 99 cents on Google Play, allowing a new generation of digital viewers to join the global dialogue. Participant’s digital network, TakePart.com, will also run a special five-part editorial series on climate change that will dive deeper into the issue and its evolution beginning June 10 at takepart.com/an-inconvenient-truth. As part of the series, TakePart has also teamed with The Climate Reality Project to recommend ten climate crisis actions people can take.This Google+ Hangout on Air is the former Vice President’s first and kicks off Google+ Conversations, a new series on Google+ where everyday users have the opportunity to engage global experts in discussions on the issues that matter to them.
APTN National NewsThe Yukon has a new premier.In a landslide vote this weekend, the Yukon party chose Darrell Pasloski as their new leader.Pasloski is a Whitehorse pharmacist and businessman who has never held elected office. He ran unsuccessfully for the Conservatives in the 2008 federal election.He currently does not hold a seat in the Yukon legislative assembly.Pasloski replaces Dennis Fentie who is retiring. Fenti has led the Yukon government since 2002.Pasloski will have to call a territorial election before mid-October.As premier, he says he will focus on building a strong cabinet and working on current issues.